Paul wrote, ‘Do you think I make my plans carelessly? Do you think I am like people of the world who say “Yes” when they really mean “No”? As surely as God is faithful, our word to you does not waver’ (vv.17-18 NLT). Paul had learned to set boundaries on his relationships, and we need to do the same. A wise person said, ‘Never complain about what you permit.’ Unless you set boundaries, you’re open to the attacks of people who want to take advantage of you and waste your time. ‘Jesus…does not waver between “Yes” and “No”…he always does what he says’ (v. 19 NLT). And as His follower, you must learn when it’s appropriate to say yes and when it’s appropriate to say no. When people back you into a corner, confront them promptly, privately, and personally. And if they won’t listen, take someone with you. And if they won’t listen to both of you, take it to the church leadership (see Matthew 18:15-17). Be clear about what you will and won’t put up with. In the words of a 1990s country song, ‘You’ve got to stand for something or you’ll fall for anything.’ Get comfortable with making known your wishes and preferences without the fear of rejection and alienation. Make this your prayer today: ‘Lord, let me serve and give to others from a pure heart rather than a need for love and acceptance. On Your authority, I order the spirit of fear that has prevented me from setting healthy boundaries to leave now. I’m placing my trust in You, and I will not fear what people can do to me (see Psalm 56:11). In Jesus’ name. Amen.’
